When we talk about intimacy in a marriage, emotional and physical are the first two types that come to mind. They’re important, absolutely, but they’re not everything you need. Recreational intimacy isn’t given much publicity, but your marriage needs it!
When two people become as close as they do in marriage, there are bound to be a few frustrations here and there. If you want to deal with them calmly and lovingly, there a few things that you should NOT do!
People say that marriage is hard, but we haven’t experienced that. We’ve been in difficult life situations, sure, but marriage is the good part of it.
We were at a wedding not too long after we got married and there was a place to write advice for the couple. Caleb wrote one simple piece of advice, and it suddenly made sense why our marriage is so good, so beautiful.
Caleb and I have been married for a little over 6 months. Time has flown by and it has been an absolutely wonderful adventure. Time and again, I’ve heard people say that marriage is hard, and I disagree. But one thing that I do think is difficult is remembering to tell your spouse how much you appreciate them. Sure, they know you love them, and that’s a vital part of marriage. But do they know how much you like them? How great you think they are? How much you appreciate them? Maybe not, and it can be easy to forget to tell them, especially in the midst of a busy season. But after much thought, I’ve come up with the perfect way to make your spouse feel appreciated every day.
Today is July 4th, Independence Day. It is a day of celebration for our country. We are proud to be Americans. But for us, it’s another celebration, as well. Today, Caleb and I have been married 100 days! Yaaayyyyy! It’s been amazing, and we know that it will only be greater as we go. We are enjoying our life now and we are so excited for the future and everything that it holds. 🙂
I read a blog post the other day from Heaven and Hearth entitled Marriage Isn’t Hard (click the link to visit that post). Kali is wise beyond her years. In her post, she talks about how the phrase “marriage is hard, but worth it” has essentially become a mantra in the Christian culture. She disagrees, as do I. Is marriage worth it? Absolutely. Is marriage hard? No. Sin is hard, and we are sinful creatures. “But by the grace of God I am what I am, and his grace to me was not without effect.” [1 Corinthians 15:10] God’s grace enables us to live a life pursuing His holy desires, and enables our marriages to be filled with grace, love, and mercy.
This is not to say that hard times will not come. Many of you will look at this and roll your eyes because we’ve been married a little over three months and of course nothing difficult could have happened during that time. (You would be wrong.) In fact, quite a few people have told us something to the effect of, “Oh, sure, marriage is good in the beginning, but you just wait.” If that is you, please stop. Speak life into newlyweds, please. We know that there will be difficult paths to navigate, but by the grace of God and with His mercy, we will triumph.
Marriage is good. We love it. We love each other. We’ve learned a lot about each other, marriage, and God in the last 100 days, and we want to share some of that with you. Continue Reading