Dear Mom Whose Baby Won’t Sleep: God Hasn’t Abandoned You

July 11, 2018

Hey mama,

I know.

Your baby won’t sleep. She just cries and can’t settle down. Or he wakes up every hour to nurse.

You’re tired. You’re frustrated. And you just don’t understand.

But listen closely: God is still with you.

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Mama, I’ve been in your shoes. As I’m writing this, I’m still in the trenches with you. Over a year into my little girl’s life and she still doesn’t sleep well.

I know where you’ve been, where you are. I’ve walked the floors, I’ve cried the tears, I’ve held the sleepless baby.

It’s frustrating, I know.

You’ve read the books. You’ve hired the sleep coaches. You’ve signed up for every online course you could find. And still, nothing helps.

Your friends and family mean well. They tell you that when she starts solids, she’ll sleep better. They tell you that if you don’t nurse him to sleep, he’ll sleep better. They tell you that a nighttime routine of a bath, books, and cuddles will cure all the sleep problems.

They mean well, but they don’t know your baby like you do. They don’t know that you’ve tried all those things. They don’t know that you’ve tried EVERYTHING. Plain and simple, they just don’t know.

And that’s frustrating, I know. You feel like you don’t have any answers, and you’re desperate for someone who does.

So you turn to the One who has all the answers. You pray and pray and pray for your little one. You find scriptures and take them to the crib and speak them over him every night. And still, he doesn’t sleep.

I know. I’ve asked all the questions. I’ve prayed so many prayers. I’ve searched high and low and deep and wide for an answer, any answer, and when I couldn’t find one, it crushed me.

Everybody else’s babies seemed to be sleeping. Sure, they might wake up once a night, but they didn’t want to nurse every hour like mine did. They didn’t take an hour to put to sleep every night. They didn’t refuse to take naps on a daily basis.

That broke me. Surely, if my baby was the only one having all these issues, I must have done something wrong. I must have messed up. I must be alone on this.

God must have abandoned me.


That is a lie straight from the pits of hell.

Mama, the devil sees you. He sees you praying for your baby and pouring love into them and taking them to church. He sees you raising them in Christ, and he doesn’t like it.

Like he always does, the devil looks for any door he can find to sneak into your life. And if he can get you to doubt God’s presence in your life, that’s perfect. That’s an open door for him.

But he’s not welcome here, so let me give you some truths to fight these lies.

God sees you.

Genesis 16:13 tells us that God is El Roi, the God who sees us.

He sees our struggles. He sees our pain. He sees our sleep deprivation, our tears, and our frustrations.

And He’s there every step of the way, holding us, comforting us, and walking with us.

In the darkest of nights, it comforts me that I am not invisible to the Almighty God. In fact, He’s sitting in the nursery right beside me, helping me comfort my little one. That is true love.

God’s mercies are new every morning.

When you’re up half the night, I know it seems like morning may never come. I can’t count the times I’ve spent 2 or 3 hours in my daughter’s room in the middle of the night. It felt like it would never end.

But every time, morning came. And every time, God gave me enough grace, mercy, and energy for the new day.

If your day was bad and your night was worse, rest assured that tomorrow is a new day with new mercies.

God will never abandon you.

It’s a Sunday school truth, but it’s the truth nonetheless. But since I know it’s hard to believe that, let’s look at scriptures that confirm it.

“It is the Lord who goes before you. He will be with you; He will not leave you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed.” – Deuteronomy 31:8 ESV

“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” – Isaiah 41:10 NIV

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 4:6-7 NIV

“Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you.” – Deuteronomy 31:6 ESV

“Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.” – Hebrews 4:16 ESV

But as for me, I watch in hope for the Lord, I wait for God my Savior; my God will hear me.” – Micah 7:7

Have you ever felt like God has abandoned you? How do you fight these lies from the enemy?

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  • Eileen

    July 11, 2018 at 12:44 pm

    Really good, God’s promise is Never will I leave you, never will I forsake you (Hebrews 13:5)

  • Elizebeth

    July 11, 2018 at 1:38 pm

    I love this! Thanks for the encouragement!

  • Hannah Savage

    July 11, 2018 at 3:32 pm

    Such great truth for the trenches of motherhood!

  • Lara d’Entremont

    July 11, 2018 at 3:44 pm

    Thank you for this sweet reminder ❤️ As I prepare for motherhood, I know these will be truths I remind myself of often.

  • Sabrina

    July 11, 2018 at 9:06 pm

    So much truth! It’s easy to believe that God has forsaken us in the long nights, but you are right – somehow the morning comes, and we do have strength to face the day. We might face it with lots of coffee and naps and no make-up, but we face it nonetheless. God is carrying us on those days!

  • Amber

    July 11, 2018 at 9:45 pm

    Amen! Our first born was the WORST sleeper. We seriously wondered about having more kids because we didn’t know if we could handle any more sleepless nights!

    I wish I would have had this when we were in the midst of those crazy sleepless hours with her.

    Thankfully, she has gotten some better and most of all, I am thankful her younger sibling did NOT take after her.

    God is faithful through all the crazy parenting stages, even sleep deprivation!

  • Della Adamski

    July 24, 2018 at 12:12 am

    Such great truth for the trenches of motherhood!As I prepare for motherhood, I know these will be truths I remind myself of often. Thanks for the encouragement!

  • Rachel

    January 20, 2019 at 5:27 pm

    I needed to come across this today 🙌🏻 Last two nights have left me completely out of my mind! All I can say to myself is this too shall pass. But I also keep saying when! 😭

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