You’re nervous, I know. Your baby is still unpredictable. Sometimes she sleeps for 2 hours, but sometimes it’s only 15 minutes and she wakes up screaming.
He went 3 hours without eating the other day, but other times, he’s hungry every 30 minutes. “I don’t want to feed him all during church,” you’ve said. You’re scared to feed with all those people around (“what if she pulls the blanket off?”), but you don’t want to be exiled to the nursery, either.
And on that note, there are so many people around. What if he gets sick? His immune system is still so new. Or what if her diaper leaks and I don’t realize it before it’s too late? Do I need to take a change of clothes for me, too?
What if he cries? What if she screams? Should I just leave him in the nursery? Will people judge me if I bring her into the sanctuary? How do I take care of a newborn in church?
Maybe we should just stay home.
Whether it’s your first child or your eighth, you’re probably still nervous to take your newborn to church. There are so many unknowns. Trust me, I know.
We didn’t take Selah to church until she was 3 weeks old, and even then it was only because Caleb was showing his film and I needed to be there to support him. I was so nervous that she would wake up crying and everyone would turn and look at us, or that she would have a restless nursing session and I wouldn’t be able to hold her still.
But mama, trust me. Church is the safest place for you and your baby. Let me speak some encouragement to you.
Do what you need to do.
If you want to leave your baby in the nursery, do it. If you don’t feel comfortable with that and need to bring your baby into the sanctuary with you, do it. Do what you need to do.
This isn’t about the people next to you who have never put their child in the nursery, nor is about the ones who put their one-week old in there and never looked back. We liked having Selah with us in church, so she never went in the nursery, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Other babies have never been in “big church,” and there’s nothing wrong with that either.
Just because you’re not at home doesn’t mean you don’t get to decide what’s best for your family. Make the decision that works for you.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
Unless I was feeding her, Caleb usually held Selah during church. Not only did he get extra baby cuddle time, but that gave me a little break (I love my Selah girl, but my arms get tired). Husbands are a great help during church.
If your husband isn’t available to help during church, I’d be willing to bet that there are lots of grandmas and moms of big kids that would be more than happy to hold your baby, even if it’s just for a few minutes before service so you can use the restroom.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed and need help, just ask. That’s what your church family is there for.
You are loved.
Your church family loves you. They loved you before baby, all throughout pregnancy, and they probably love you even more now. If your baby wakes up crying, they understand. Most of them have kids of their own, and they’ve been there. Don’t be embarrassed and don’t feel ashamed.
Babies are just that way, and nothing that your baby does is going to change how your church feels about you. If you feel better about getting up and leaving when she gets fussy, then do that, but just know that the people around you love you and support you no matter what.
Plus, little fusses don’t bother other people near as much as they bother mama. Keep that in mind. 😉
When did you first take your baby to church? Were you nervous? Do you have any tips for mamas who may be scared to take their newborn to church? Tell us in the comments!
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