One Piece of Advice For A Beautiful Marriage

People say that marriage is hard, but we haven’t experienced that. We’ve been in difficult life situations, sure, but marriage is the good part of it.

We were at a wedding not too long after we got married and there was a place to write advice for the couple. Caleb wrote one simple piece of advice, and it suddenly made sense why our marriage is so good, so beautiful.

There's lots of Christian marriage advice out there, but this one piece of advice needs to be the foundation of your marriage.

As I stared at my husband-to-be down on one knee the night he proposed, I knew this was God’s work. Caleb and I had worked together at a summer camp several years before and had become friends when I moved closer.

Never did I imagine that he would quickly become my best friend and that God would lead us down the road of marriage and parenthood. It has been a wonderful road to travel, with God Himself as our guide.

There's lots of Christian marriage advice out there, but this one piece of advice needs to be the foundation of your marriage.
When you work together at summer camp, Wednesdays are for matching camo pants.

During our engagement, we heard lots of “advice” about marriage. Though all of it was given with the best of intentions, most of it was inapplicable or actually discouraging.

In our few months of marriage, I thought occasionally about what I would tell an engaged couple if they came to me for marriage advice. Among the list were tokens of wisdom like “have fun together,” “always kiss each other goodnight,” and “make sure you communicate.”

And don’t get me wrong; all of those are absolutely important in a marriage. But they’re not what holds a marriage together.

A marriage will not be held together by two people who just love each other. A marriage will not be held together by the cutest kids that you could ever dream of creating. A marriage will not be held together by going to church, attending counseling, or reading the best written marriage books.

No, hear me out on this one. A marriage will be held together by God and God alone.

There's lots of Christian marriage advice out there, but this one piece of advice needs to be the foundation of your marriage.
At our wedding, we took communion and prayed together. It was the perfect start to our marriage.

And that brings me to the one piece of advice that leads to a beautiful marriage. It’s not communication, it’s not church, and it’s not kissing each other goodnight (although you should definitely do that). 🙂 It is simply this:

Pray together every day.

Every night, before we turn off the light, Caleb holds my hand and prays. Some nights, it’s mostly praying for other people. Some nights, it’s praying completely for us. And some nights, it’s a 30 second prayer of exhaustion. But always, ALWAYS, we pray together before we go to sleep.

There's lots of Christian marriage advice out there, but this one piece of advice needs to be the foundation of your marriage.
Our families prayed over us at the start of our wedding. Such a special moment.

This is it, friends. This is my advice for you. Pray together every day. It ushers God into your marriage and allows Him to move, often in ways that you don’t even see or realize.

It is one simple act of submission and obedience that will make all the difference. And I promise, it will make your marriage beautiful. ❤︎
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Do you and your spouse pray together? What advice would you give newlyweds? Leave me a comment and let me know!

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22 Replies to “One Piece of Advice For A Beautiful Marriage”

  1. This is such a great reminder, Abbey and I completely agree. We don’t pray together every day, but I think making it a together-daily-habit is a wonderful idea. We try to read the bible and pray together but its sporadic. Thank you for the reminder of how important this is!

  2. What great advice…my husband and I have been married for nine years and we still don’t have this down. You are off to a great start! My best advice for engaged couples/newlyweds is usually regarding communication and conflict resolution. I think we have always done really well in this area. Thanks so much for sharing!

  3. Love the reminder to pray together every night. It’s SO important to grow in faith together as a couple. Keep doing what you’re doing 🙂

  4. Hi Abbey! While I don’t agree that marriage isn’t hard (I think it’s one of the hardest things we’ll ever do, but the work is worth doing and the reward is so great!), I do agree that praying together each night is one of the best things a married couple can do. It protects us from going to bed angry and from falling out of touch with each other and it points us back to God! I know our nightly prayers are mostly expressing gratitude for the gifts of our day and I love this habit we’ve built our marriage on. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this!!

    1. That’s a beautiful thought, Jessica! Thank you so much! I absolutely believe that prayer is one of the best foundations for a marriage, and I’m so glad that you are seeing that in your marriage as well! 🙂

  5. I’ve been married for 8.5 years + together for 11. Eeek. I totally agree — I’ve always said life is hard, not marriage. The actually act of joining in union and living life with my husband has never been the hard part.

  6. Glad you are enjoying newlywedded life! Our six anniversary is in a month and my husband and I would still say marriage is easy. 🙂 We like to have our prayer times together in the morning before he heads off to work.

  7. That’s awesome! I love that you and your husband have found something that works so well for your marriage. My husband and I aren’t religious, but similarly, we spend some time each night laying in bed talking before we go to sleep 🙂

  8. We will be married 40 years in June. Prayer held us together. Not just praying together, but praying for each other. Praying for guidance. Praying for patience. Praying to be a better wife. Asking others to pray for us. Having our parents pray for us. That’s what did it for us.

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