Why I Chose Homemaking Over My Dream Job

June 10, 2016

As a child, I dreamed. As a teen, I planned. And as a young adult, I completed years of college, all to achieve my dream job. I became a teacher. I earned my Bachelor’s degree in elementary education, and then I went a step farther and earned my Master’s in Instructional Technology. It was exactly what I had always dreamed of, but after 2 years in the profession, I quit to become a homemaker. As crazy as it seems, it was the perfect decision. Let me explain to you why I chose homemaking over my dream job.

Why I Chose Homemaking Over My Dream Job

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Let me tell you a little bit about my family. I’m the youngest of four children, born to a coach dad and a stay-at-home mom (who had her teaching degree and stepped into that profession full-time when I started high school). I always wanted to be a teacher. I was always the one willing to help my teachers with bulletin boards, and I taught some serious lessons to my stuffed animals growing up. Teaching was always the goal, the dream. And I met that goal, fulfilled that dream.

I moved to my little town almost 2 years ago, after graduating college with a degree in elementary education. I took a job here as the 4th/5th grade reading, writing, and social studies teacher. After a year, I  moved across the school to teach junior high and high school computer applications. It was a great job, my dream coming to fruition, but then things started to change. Around October, God started to emotionally remove me from teaching. I was still committed to my job, and I was absolutely going to finish out the year and teach my kiddos in the best way I could. But I wasn’t as tied to teaching anymore. It wasn’t my life goal, my dream. My heart wasn’t in it. So what was I to do?

Be a homemaker.

My husband and I got engaged a few days before Christmas, planned our wedding for March, and by the time school started again, we knew I needed to go ahead and resign. I turned in my resignation, it was approved, and I was all set to finish out the year. Then, the questions started.

“You quit your job?”

“What are you going to do?”

“Won’t you be bored?”

“Are you pregnant?”

“When are you going to get pregnant?”

“Why would you stay at home if you don’t have kids?”

Simply put, because this is God’s will for my life. God had begun to emotionally remove me from teaching because He knew what was coming long before my husband proposed. We decided that I would stop working and be a homemaker because that is what was best for our family. It was something both of us had always longed for, and it was what God was calling us to do. Sure, my job was great. I made good money. We were doing extremely well financially. But God had something more for us, so we listened to Him and followed His calling, and it has been 100% worth it.

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My husband works extremely hard. He provides for us and I thank him for that every single day. His work ethic and desire to lead and provide are what makes this possible. I stay at home and hold down the fort, and I love it. I am able to cook, clean, run our side businesses, and make our home into a place of peace and refuge. Months after I quit my job, we are preparing to welcome our baby into the world, and I’ll add a new role to my life: stay-at-home mom.

This decision came through much prayer and seeking God’s will for our lives. We did not rush into it and we did not take it lightly. As with any decision, it is only the right decision when it is initiated and blessed by God, and that has been exactly the case for us. Sure, there are days I miss teaching, but I wouldn’t wish for anything other than being a homemaker and following God’s plan for our lives. That is truly living the dream.

Now it’s your turn. Are you a homemaker? Did you give up a dream job to stay at home?

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  • kelseys365challenge

    June 10, 2016 at 11:52 am

    I have been asked all the same questions as well. I think it’s funny that because we were raised in a generation where you go to college and work, if we have the option to stay at home it’s always a problem. I remember when my husband was about to start his job the plan was I stay home and go to school full time after 7 years of community college and not being able to take more than 1 or 2 classes at a time and full time work, my in laws kept saying you need to get a job, you have to work and I was like, does nobody care that I want to finish school. It’s ridiculous how involved people think they need to be in your life. I totally understand!

    1. abbeylauren4

      June 10, 2016 at 11:58 am

      Our generation is definitely different than the ones before us, I agree! Thankfully, both our families were very supportive about our situation, or it would have been even more difficult. If something works for you and your family, and you feel like that’s what God is leading you to, then I say go for it! If finishing school is what was right for y’all, then way to go! 🙂

  • tpadams40toes

    June 10, 2016 at 10:47 pm

    All I can say is continue to be obedient! I took a break from the classroom to now a living room of four children and a husband. It’s the best job I’ve ever had!

    1. abbeylauren4

      June 11, 2016 at 9:59 am

      Thanks so much! That’s an awesome story! 🙂

  • Dani

    July 14, 2016 at 9:51 pm

    I can’t believe I stumbled upon this. I literally just quit my teaching job last week to pursue my blog & writing & am experiencing the same questions right now. This post was so well-written. Thank you for sharing! – Dani


    1. smalltownsoul

      July 15, 2016 at 9:22 am

      Dani, that’s a beautiful story! Thank you so much! I pray blessings upon your new venture; I know you will be successful! 🙂 Stay focused and passionate, and people will start to understand (hopefully)! 🙂

  • Kaycee

    March 6, 2017 at 12:37 pm

    I think that is great that you followed the Lord’s leading with making the decision to stay home. It’s definitely not something to be taking lightly because most people don’t realize that being a homemaker (and mom) is a full time job! I wish I could stay home or go part time but it’s not God’s timing for us and I’m okay with that. 🙂 I’m hoping one day He opens that door.

    1. Abbey

      March 8, 2017 at 12:42 pm

      Thank you, Kaycee! It’s certainly something that God led us to, and I commend you for keeping your eyes on Him as well! 🙂

  • Jenny

    March 6, 2017 at 1:29 pm

    I work from home on my social media consulting business and I love it. I try to keep up with the household duties while working but it isn’t always feasible so my hubby and I split up the chores which definitely helps.

    1. Abbey

      March 8, 2017 at 12:45 pm

      I understand that, Jenny! It can certainly be difficult!

  • Laura

    March 6, 2017 at 1:54 pm

    This is really cool, although I don’t have the ability to stay at home (even with kids). One day!

    1. Abbey

      March 8, 2017 at 12:45 pm

      Thank you, Laura! 🙂 I hope you get the opportunity someday!

  • Wendy – Morning Business Chat

    March 6, 2017 at 3:17 pm

    I love being at home. At first it was because I wanted to be at home all the time with my son, now he’s 15 and I still want to be at home. I like him to know that I’m here if he’s poorly or through the holidays and when he comes home from school.

    1. Abbey

      March 8, 2017 at 12:47 pm

      That’s a great attitude, Wendy! Being at home really is great! 🙂

  • Kirstie Ganobsik

    March 6, 2017 at 4:01 pm

    Sounds to me like you’re still working extremely hard. I admire people who put a quality life above the drive for money, and the truth is, dreams change as we progress through life. Good for you for following your bliss!

    1. Abbey

      March 8, 2017 at 12:47 pm

      Thank you, Kirstie! Having a quality life certainly is more fulfilling the money, and following God is the greatest dream of all! 🙂

  • Rose

    March 6, 2017 at 5:14 pm

    I think it’s great that you’re doing exactly what you feel called to do! You’re setting a great example for numerous women in the same position.

    1. Abbey

      March 8, 2017 at 12:48 pm

      Thank you, Rose! That is so kind!

  • Devon

    March 6, 2017 at 5:46 pm

    I loved this. I’m a stay at home mom and love it. The daily household jobs are what make me happy, not a career.

    1. Abbey

      March 8, 2017 at 12:48 pm

      I’m right there with you, Devon! 🙂 Thank you!

  • Tricia

    March 6, 2017 at 7:45 pm

    I’m so glad you are happy with your decision! There’s no reason to continue in a profession if you don’t feel it is your true calling. Congrats on your pregnancy!

    1. Abbey

      March 8, 2017 at 12:49 pm

      Thank you, Tricia! This has certainly been a blessing! 🙂

  • Lindsey

    March 8, 2017 at 7:31 am

    It’s such a big leap of faith, but it was the best decision I ever made as well!

    1. Abbey

      March 8, 2017 at 12:50 pm

      I agree, Lindsey! I’m glad that it has been so good for you, as well! 🙂

  • Southern & Style

    March 10, 2017 at 10:47 pm

    I have to tell you, I am so glad that I found this post!I too have been teaching (for almost two years now) and my husband and I are praying in the direction of allowing me to come home to take care of our home and our business and help my husband with our farm. It’s a huge step, especially since we don’t have any children and I know a lot of people will judge us for it. But if it’s what God wants, then it’s what I want! I just feel so, so much better reading this post-you made me realize that it doesn’t matter if others question us, what matters is that we’re doing what is best for us!

    xoxo, SS

    Southern And Style

    1. Abbey

      March 16, 2017 at 10:06 am

      That is so amazing! Thank you for sharing that! We did get some weird looks from people since I was staying home before we had kids, but it was absolutely the best decision for us! 🙂

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