I love being married! People say that marriage is hard, but we haven’t experienced that. We’ve been in difficult life situations, sure, but marriage is the good part of it. Even when life is bad, marriage is good. We were at a wedding not too long after we got married and there was a place to write advice for the couple. Caleb wrote one simple piece of advice, and it suddenly made sense why our marriage is so good, so beautiful. I want to share that with you: one piece of advice for a beautiful marriage.
This one piece of advice has made our marriage more beautiful than I ever could have dreamed. Click To Tweet
As I stared at my husband-to-be down on one knee the night he proposed, I knew this was God’s work. Caleb and I had worked together at a summer camp several years before and had become friends when I moved closer. Never did I imagine that he would quickly become my best friend and that God would lead us down the road of marriage and parenthood. It has been a wonderful road to travel, with God Himself as our guide.
During our engagement, we heard lots of “advice” about marriage. Though all of it was given with the best of intentions, most of it was inapplicable or actually discouraging. In our few months of marriage, I thought occasionally about what I would tell an engaged couple if they came to me for advice. Among the list were tokens of wisdom like “have fun together,” “always kiss each other goodnight,” and “make sure you communicate.” And don’t get me wrong; all of those are absolutely important in a marriage. But they’re not what holds a marriage together.
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A marriage will not be held together by two people who just love each other. A marriage will not be held together by the cutest kids that you could ever dream of creating. A marriage will not be held together by going to church, attending counseling, or reading the best written marriage books. No, hear me out on this one. A marriage will be held together by God and God alone.
And that brings me to the one piece of advice that leads to a beautiful marriage. It’s not communication, it’s not church, and it’s not kissing each other goodnight (although you should definitely do that). 🙂 It is simply this:
Pray together every day.
Every night, before we turn off the light, Caleb holds my hand and prays. Some nights, it’s mostly praying for other people. Some nights, it’s praying completely for us. And some nights, it’s a 30 second prayer of exhaustion. But always, ALWAYS, we pray together before we go to sleep.
This is it, friends. This is my advice for you. Pray together every day. It ushers God into your marriage and allows Him to move, often in ways that you don’t even see or realize. It is one simple act of submission and obedience that will make all the difference. And I promise, it will make your marriage beautiful. ❤︎Life can be hard, but marriage is the good part. Make your marriage a beautiful one. Click To Tweet
Now it’s your turn. Do you and your spouse pray together? What advice would you give newlyweds?